Archive for August, 2004

2004.08.06

Gender Preference and Weight

DISCLAIMER: The following is not Politically Correct (PC). If you are a member of the Political Correction Police, or cannot handle non-PC material, please do not read any more of this article.

Last night an observation came from talking with NHK. Regardless of your gender preference (meaning if you are straight or gay), if you are a person who likes men there are cultural pressures on you to look good, remain thin, and have a better than average standard for dress but if you are a person who likes women the pressure is, more or less, off and often you can look and act fairly slovenly.

Straight women and gay men are notoriously pressured to look good. In fact for many women the idea of looking like a Victoria’s Secret model drives many to plastic surgery, bolemia, and large collections of shoes. Gay men will often spend large sums of money on nice clothes, skin cream and gym memberships.

Straight men and gay women are not known for their fancy clothes or their caring so much about their weight. Why this is I can only speculate. Maybe because we know that our target partners (women) will generally care less about our appearance and more about who we are as people. Our character is more important than how we look (though certainly looks are important).

Man-likers have to put up with partners who often are of lesser physical quality, which can be frustrating while women-likers have to put up with partners of often nag about how we look. Man-likers are often accepting of partners faults (because there really isn’t a choice, is there?) while women-likers are lucky their partner is so tolerant of our peculiarities. I can think of many other dichotomies and contrasts between the two groups.

There are, as always, exceptions to this observations, but I believe it does work as a general rule. I am making not judgements on whether this rule is good or bad (ask and I might tell).

Disclosure: I’m a guy and am often called a lesbian by friends because I drive a Subaru and I like women. Funny how that works out.

2004.08.05

Barenaked Ladies. Everything to Everyone

Barenaked Ladies are at it again with a slightly more serious album, though by serious I simply mean that there are a few more songs that you sit and listen to instead of get up and jump around. I like this one, for many of the same reasons I like all their previous work; excellence and irreverence. Worth the purchase, that’s for sure. My favorite songs on the disk are “Maybe Katie”, “Testing 1, 2, 3″ and “Shopping”… although for singing along in the car for some reason I really like “Aluminum.”

2004.08.05

Jennifer Nerad, Painter

My cousin, Jennifer, has put up a website with a few of her paintings. Our lives have many odd similarities, like that we are both working with computers with similar jobs in the publishing industry, we (now) both have webpages, and we both have creative urges. I express mine in music and writing, and she in painting and dancing, and probably other fields I’m not aware of like music and writing. It seems to be a Nerad trait; I think we all show a definate technical and creative bent.

Meanwhile I’m looking forward to more paintings to be posted!

2004.08.04

Tys and Melissa Get Hitched

This weekend Ann and I went to the wedding of Tys Sniffen and Melissa up near Point Arena on Oz Farm. I brought my video camera along and should hopefully have something edited down and presentable before the week is up.

Congratulations, you two!

And, in a shameless plug, if you live in District 5 of San Francisco you should look at Tys’ candidacy for Supervisor. Get out there and vote!