2004.08.06
Gender Preference and Weight
DISCLAIMER: The following is not Politically Correct (PC). If you are a member of the Political Correction Police, or cannot handle non-PC material, please do not read any more of this article.
Last night an observation came from talking with NHK. Regardless of your gender preference (meaning if you are straight or gay), if you are a person who likes men there are cultural pressures on you to look good, remain thin, and have a better than average standard for dress but if you are a person who likes women the pressure is, more or less, off and often you can look and act fairly slovenly.
Straight women and gay men are notoriously pressured to look good. In fact for many women the idea of looking like a Victoria’s Secret model drives many to plastic surgery, bolemia, and large collections of shoes. Gay men will often spend large sums of money on nice clothes, skin cream and gym memberships.
Straight men and gay women are not known for their fancy clothes or their caring so much about their weight. Why this is I can only speculate. Maybe because we know that our target partners (women) will generally care less about our appearance and more about who we are as people. Our character is more important than how we look (though certainly looks are important).
Man-likers have to put up with partners who often are of lesser physical quality, which can be frustrating while women-likers have to put up with partners of often nag about how we look. Man-likers are often accepting of partners faults (because there really isn’t a choice, is there?) while women-likers are lucky their partner is so tolerant of our peculiarities. I can think of many other dichotomies and contrasts between the two groups.
There are, as always, exceptions to this observations, but I believe it does work as a general rule. I am making not judgements on whether this rule is good or bad (ask and I might tell).
Disclosure: I’m a guy and am often called a lesbian by friends because I drive a Subaru and I like women. Funny how that works out.
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- NHK says (January 1st, 1970 at 08:00:00 )
Yep. the weight thing is one of the drawbacks to dating guys. Ya gotta stay in shape or (with few exceptions) you’ll end up alone or dating a bow-wow. Having said that, I can’t really bitch too much, since I have pretty high standards, myself. I really *hate* going to the gym, though.
- Dongle Dog says (January 1st, 1970 at 08:00:00 )
Lezzie!
- Mookee says (January 1st, 1970 at 08:00:00 )
A couple of things…
First, there are plenty of women who like men out there who are just as superficial as the men they want to date. I would go one step further and say that the women who are this way are infinitely worse than most men.
Second, there is some truth to what you are saying, though I’d argue that both sides are about equal (not exactly equal, but about equal). Take the out of control love and buy in of the Hollywood stereotypical male and apply it to the average group…
Third, the female body is different than the male body (I realize the dugh has problems with this concept, I’ll ignore that). A woman who “works out” is not the same as a man who works out. Women really only have to do the requisite cardiovascular activity and they’re fine. Yes, they have to watch what they eat — but that’s not different than the men. Men have to not only do the requisite cardiovascularity, but also lift (to look proportional) — the exception to this is when the man has broad shoulders, in which case he can get away with just cardio, but will still be skinny…but some chicks like skinny…in fact, because the female form is so much more desireable, the skinny guy is generally preferred…this goes to support the original argument.
Fourth, I’m annoyed that you have a disclaimer at the top about PC. This is a PC discussion, you said nothing that would offend anyone with normal sensibilities and a brain…like I said, from the immediate appearance, you’re right on, but equally true is that women are so much more cruel in applying the standard.
Finally, the dugh…you’re not a lesbian only because you like women and drive a subaru, the fact that you drive a subaru and like women is just icing on the cake.
